You should be a monster. And then you should learn how to control it.
You shouldn’t necessarily suppress your competitive instincts or be ‘nice’ or ‘harmless’. Be assertive and aggressive & then learn how to control it.
This phrase captures the meaning of it perfectly – “It is better to be a warrior in a garden, than a gardener in war.”
Reminds me of another quote I had read on martial arts. “The ultimate aim of martial arts is not having to use them.”
“He who has a sword, and knows how to use it, but keeps it sheathed shall inherit the earth.”
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